Neutral Ground, LLC

CERTIFIED FAMILY MEDIATION TRAINING

AGENDA

DAY 1  -  DOMESTIC VIOLENCE  (8 Hours)

8:30                 Introduction of Topic

9:15                 Domestic Violence in New Hampshire

9:30                 Defining and Understanding Domestic Violence

- Defining “Victim”

- Domestic violence and New Hampshire Law

- The “Cycle of Violence”

- Why batterers abuse

- Common fears of victims

10:15               Break

10:30               Batterers as Fathers

Effects of Domestic Violence on Children

12:00               Lunch

12:45               Intersection of Domestic Violence and Mediation

- Concerns of the advocacy community

1:30                 Identifying Domestic Violence

- Red Flags

- Meeting with suspected victim of DV

- Meeting with suspected perpetrator of DV

- Screening considerations and risks

2:45                 Break

3:00                 Support for Victims

3:30                 Community Resources

4:00                 Role Plays

5:30                 Questions and Answers/Review and Summary

5:45                 Adjourn


DAY 2  -  MEDIATION AND CONFLICT  (9 Hours)

8:30     Overview of Mediation.

a.         What mediation is (and isn’t)

b.         The “why” of mediation

i.          Mediation’s guiding principles

            c.         Mediation compared with other ADR options

            d.         Mediation in New Hampshire – applicable statutes and rules

e.         The mediation process

i.                    History of mediation

ii.                  Stages and steps in mediation from contract to finish

iii.                Video: Contracting for Mediation

10:00   Break

10:15   Conflict.

            a.         Understanding conflict

                        i.          Advantages of conflict

                        ii.         The cycle of conflict

                        iii.        Stages and styles of conflict

                        iv.        Power imbalances

            b.         How and when mediation is useful in conflict

            c.         The mediator’s role in conflict

            d.         Staying with and resolving conflict

12:00   Lunch  Video: Mediation Works

12:45   Mediating the Conflict

            a.         The role of the mediator

i.          Impartiality vs. neutrality

ii.         Facilitative vs. evaluative vs. transformative, etc.

b.         Principles of confidentiality   

c.         Differentiating between positions, interests and needs

            d.         Requirements for informed decisions

            e.         Gathering needed information          

f.          Eliciting ideas and exploring alternatives

2:30     Break

2:45     Mediating the Conflict (cont’d)

            f.          Testing for agreement

            g.         Building the agreement

                        i.          What to do when no agreement in sight

                        ii.         Impasse, including obstructions due to unwillingness and incapacitation

3:45     Role Plays and/or Demonstrations

5:30     Questions and Answers/Review and Summary

6:00     Adjourn

 

DAY 3  -  MEDIATION AND CONFLICT (CONT’D) (9  Hours)

 

8:30     Resolving the Conflict

a.         The Mediator’s Toolbox

            i.          Communication indexes

                        (a)        Listening

                        (b)        Giving good attention

                        (c)        Involving

                        (d)        Acknowledging

                        (e)        Encouraging

                        (f)        Reframing

10:00   Break

10:15   Mediator’s Toolbox (cont’d)

            ii.         Setting the tone for the mediation - what the mediator

brings to the table

                        iii.        Separate sessions

- Controlling the Process

            iv.        Setting the agenda

            v.         Boundaries and ground rules

            vi.        When to intervene

                        (a)        Confronting

                        (b)        Restating

                        (c)        Protecting

                        (d)        Directing

                        (e)        Summarizing  

            vii.       What to do when things get out of control

            viii.      Ability of client to participate: recognizing personal incapacities

12:00   Lunch  Video: Mediation – It’s Up to You

12:45   Mediator’s Toolbox (cont’d)

c.         Handling power imbalances

d.         Professional resources for mediators

1:30     Culture and Diversity.

            a.         Understanding cultural and value differences

            b.         Understanding gender differences

            c.         Understanding communication differences

2:45     Break

3:00     Role plays and/or Demonstrations

5:30     Questions and Answers/Review and Summary

6:00     Adjournment

 

DAY 4  -  FAMILY LAW OVERVIEW (9 Hours)

8:30                 Introduction of Topic – Parental Rights and Responsibilities

8:45                 Part A – Parental Rights and Responsibilities

Overview of Parental Rights and Responsibilities Act of 2005

                        - Dissection of RSA 458

                        - RSA 458 vs. RSA 461-A

                        Federal Law and Parental Rights and Responsibilities

9:15                 Review of RSA 461-A

                        - Changes in the law; the issue of “presumptions”

            - “Parental Rights and Responsibilities” vs. “Custody” and “Visitation”

                        - Focus on ADR and New forms of ADR for parenting cases

10:00               Break

10:15               Family Relationships During and Post-Divorce

                                    - The concept of “Reorganization”

                        Child Impact Seminar

                        Review of forms

                        - Parenting Plan

                        - Child Support Guidelines

                        - Uniform Support Order

12:00               Lunch – Video: Children - The Experts in Divorce

12:45               Assessing Parents’ Needs and Traditions

                        Age Considerations for Parenting Schedules

                        Relationship Issues

1:45                 Working Session

                        Completing Parenting Plans

3:00                 Break

3:15                 Part B - Child-related Financial Issues

                        Completing Child Support Guidelines

                        Completing Uniform Support Order

 

4:15                 Role Plays (Meet the Campbells)

5:45                 Questions and Answers/Review and Summary

6:00                 Adjourn

 

DAY 5  -  FAMILY LAW OVERVIEW (CONT’D) (8 ½  HOURS)

8:30                 Introduction of Topic - Review of RSA 458 and Property

                        - Grounds for divorce

- The law and property

- Changes in the law

                                    - Pending legislation

                        Federal Law and Property

9:30                 Review of Final Decree

10:30               Break

10:30               Defining “Property”

                        - “Stuff”

                        - Investments

                        - Retirement

                        - Debts

                        - Etc.

Need for disclosure

11:00               Property Division Decision Trees

12:00               Lunch

12:45               Budgeting and Financial Planning for Parties

                        Review of Financial Affidavit

1:30                 Writing Workshop – Writing Effective Agreements

3:15                 Break

3:30                 Role Plays:  The Campbells

5:30                 Questions and Answers/Review and Summary

6:00                 Adjourn

 

DAY 6  -  ETHICS AND PULLING IT TOGETHER  (8 Hours)

8:30                 Introduction of Topics

8:45                 Work Session - Preparing Decrees

10:00               Break

10:15               Mediation Ethics

AFCC Model Standards for Mediators

1.  Self-determination

2.  Qualified

3.  Assessing capacity to mediate

4.  Impartiality

5.  Full disclosure

6.  Informed decisions

7.  Confidentiality

8.  Children’s best interests

9.  Implications involving child abuse/neglect

10.  Implications involving domestic abuse

11.  When to terminate a mediation

12.  Truth in advertising

13.  Maintaining competency as mediator

 

12:00               Lunch

12:45               Ethical Issues

2:30                 Break

2:45                 Role Plays

4:45                 Questions and Answers/Review and Summary



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